Category: Grief
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Blessings that Broke My Heart
I’ve seen enough heartbreak in my life, enough that all dues should be long paid and nothing but joy ahead for the rest of my days. As you might expect, those heartbreaks were usually about the loss of a dream, whether it was the dream of a life with a man, the dream of a…
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Let Pain Be Your Guide: Suicidal Thoughts as the Catalyst for Change
In honor of National Suicide Prevention Day, I’m reposting an article I published on this blog on 23 July 2008. I’ve made no changes to the original article, and rather than posting a new photo of my own with pretty writing on it, I’ve elected to keep the original picture I used 5 years…
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Five Things, Sweetheart, Five Things
It was a difficult night. There was nothing left to say, nothing that I could say. My friend was hurting, and I the Fixer could not fix it. I’ve had enough of people intentionally dying around me this year, and I didn’t want to let another friend lapse into an uneasy silence that would be…
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What Religion Is the Aurora Theater Shooter? And Does It Matter?
I am anxiously watching the news chatter on the“Dark Knight Rises”massacre and the latest breaking news this hour. As empathic as I am, it’s tough to watch or read about, and as happens with all tragedies, they reflect similar previous tragedies and bring long-buried pain to the surface. My first real understanding of what…
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The Surprising Shadow Side of Wonderful Things
The photo on the left was my engagment photo, taken around March 1986. It was the beginning of an era…the one where I began a family of two (my spouse and me), then added two children over the next few years. The photo on the right was taken a few weeks ago, March 2011, as…